Why boudoir should come with a warning label-St louis Boudoir-GlamMarr Studios

As a boudoir photographer I often here about how a boudoir session is a “once in a lifetime” experience. Something to cross off the bucket list.

Something you do so you can say that you’ve done it.

But you know what’s funny about that?

While I agree that having the right kind of boudoir session can be absolutely mind blowing and life changing, I know for a fact that most clients will come back again and again.

But why?

Because of the side effects you receive from your session!

Warning:

“A session at GlamMarr studios may cause feelings of increased confidence, elation, changes in perception, giddiness and outburst of profanity”

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Ill let you in on a secret… getting your photo taken and the feelings you get from the experience itself are ADDICTIVE!

You’ll want to experience them again and again.

Think about it.

Your first session is like a first date. You’re nervous, you don’t know what to expect or if you are really as prepared at you think you are.

What if we don’t get along? Will I do something stupid? What should I wear!?

Then after your session you realize how freaking easy it was and how much fun you had!

You were literally nervous for nothing!

You love the outcome! You love your photos, you love how you feel after your session..

The first date went flawlessly and you had more fun than you thought possible.

You start seeing outfits you’d love to wear to your next session. Poses pop up on Instagram and you no longer think “Ugh, I’ll never look like that”, instead you click the save button so you can practice that pose later!

Now you’re thinking about ALL the possibilities for your next session and you’re starting to get excited again!

Your next shoot is like being in a relationship for a few years. Still sexy but you know each other WAY better and there is a foundation of trust!

We’ve learned from the first session what you loved the most and now you’re not afraid to step even more out of your comfort zone.

And we make the magic happen.

First shoot Vs Second shoot

Check out Laura’s first shoot

She did amazing and we had so much fun. She was open to trying pretty much whatever! This shoot was taken during the summer and we were able to capture some awesome outdoor pool shots!

And her second shoot!

Laura was super excited about shooting with the fireplace and had zero hesitations when I informed her that we were shooting fully nude!

I had some other tricks up my sleeve that made this a truly unique shoot! I love it when I get free reign to design a clients shoot.

and lets face it… My personal style (and studio) changes weekly so you’ll never get the same photos twice, no matter how many times you come back!

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Which session to you vibe with more!? Summer fun or winter bliss?!

She also came in for a boudoir video shoot, you can check out what an actual boudoir session is like in the video below!

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Ready to chat about your own session?

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All Images used with permission. We never share your images without your explicit consent!

Ever wonder what a clients full shoot looks like? We often only see one or two images from someones session which does not allow for us to image what our own session may be like!

Ms H allowed for us to share all of her session! We chose our favorites to post here so that other potential clients can see the variety and range that they will receive during their shoot.
One of the many reasons GlamMarr is so popular as a boudoir studio near St louis is because of its ever changing studio sets ups and its unique look that you cant get anywhere else.

You can see 10 reasons why we’re the best boudoir studio in st louis and the midwest here!

Our images, while considered boudoir, lean more toward intimate lifestyle portraits. You’ll see many of our photos are voyeristic and they always tell a story.

They say a picture is worth a thousand words so I’ll just let those do the talking now!

If you’d like to chat about booking your own shoot please head on over to our website! We’re currently booking for January-July of 2020 (yes we’re already booked for 2019, but we’re worth the wait!)

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St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

St louis Boudoir photography Glammarr studios Collinsville IL

#FearlesslyFemFridays-St Louis Boudoir-GlamMarr Studios-Body Positive Boudoir Video

Whew! It has been a long week! I’ve recently got back into video and I had a past client come back in the studio to help me hone my videography skills! This client was one of the many awesome women that allowed me to share their unretouched boudoir images! Below you’ll see a few from her session earlier this year at GlamMarr Studios.

We had an instant connection when we shot her first session and I knew that she would be the perfect person to help me with this little project!

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Unretouched image. Only minor color/exposure corrections have been made to the entire image. Client has not been retouched in anyway.

I really wanted to showcase how sexy it is to embrace your body, the way it is, and to just go with the flow. She did great at taking directions, listening to my ramblings and dancing for hours to the same song on repeat. Once we start shooting you have little time to dwell on your insecurities.

We had joked about doing a blooper reel so I decided that it would be a great way to show what really goes on behind the scenes at a boudoir shoot. I think women get so intimidated that they will not know what to do, how to move or what expressions to make. Rest assure that I direct you through the entire process, posing and expression. Its not my clients job to “know what they are doing”… its my job to teach them and show them how its done!

This Fearlessly Fem Friday post basically speaks for itself. If a picture is worth 1,000 words than a video is worth at least 1 million! And we have TWO videos for you to see!

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I’ve also included the final video so be sure to compare them! Its so fun to see what really happens behind the scenes. BTW if you are offended by colorful language… don’t watch the blooper reel 🙂

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I hope you enjoyed both videos! Click on the youtube bell to subscribe and give us a thumbs up if you did!

Be sure to also head on over to our Instagram to see more unretouched boudoir photos. Its amazing to see perfectly imperfect women rocking the skin they’re in!

Celebrate the body love revolution with us!

 

Ready to embrace your body and book your own boudoir shoot? Head on over to our body positive community and check out our upcoming black Friday special going live on November 16th!

Or visit us online at GlamMarr studios

See our previous blog post here

#FearlesslyFemFridays-St Louis Boudoir-GlamMarr Studios-Spilling the tea pt 1.

Part one of a 2 (or maybe 3) part blog.

Today I am spilling all the tea. 

I pride myself on being open honest and real and in this post I want to talk about how my perception of beauty has changed from when I first started my business back in 2005 as Vintage Imagery. At the time I was looking for someone to take sexy photos of myself, to help ME embrace and love my body. I suffered from body dysphoria. I suffered from anxiety. I was going through a rough patch in my marriage to my ex husband. I needed an outlet, a boost to my self esteem but sadly, I was living in Great Falls, Montana and NO ONE took the type of photos that I wanted.

So naturally I wanted to fill that hole in the market.

I had a fairly good understanding of photography, film at the time, and had worked a few years at a company that did family photos. I thought to myself, “If this is something I want, there must be other women out there like me”. So with that, I purchased my first digital camera and started to practice on my friends.

I had so much fun…but there was a problem.

My perception of “beautiful” and “sexy” was so far off that it wasn’t even funny. I had idolized the pinups of the 1940s and 1950s. I don’t mean ACTUAL human pinups, I mean the cartoon representations of women. I loved pinup artist like Elvgren. 

These images were of women with impossibly tiny waists, curvy hips and legs that were so long that they were literally unobtainable.

Even the models for these paintings didn’t look like their cartoon counterparts.

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Lets just say I had a VERY skewed idea of what women “should” look like.

When I opened my first studio in 2006, reproducing the look of the painted pinups of the 1950s was my jam. My thought was that knowing how retouched and photoshopped todays models are in magazines that it would make women feel better if THEY were also retouched and photoshopped so they could see that they were no different from those models.

Ass backwards I know. 

Over the course of time I worked with hundreds of women of all shapes, sizes and ages. I wanted to transform them into living works of art, into a cartoon version of themselves, in the hopes that it would help them boost their self confidence.

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And it did!

But there was something that just felt off to me. I couldn’t explain it at the time, but as the years went on I started to understand what that feeling was.

I was going against my own beliefs.

Here I had all these absolutely beautiful women, perfect the way they were, and I was changing how they looked through editing. Sometimes only a little, sometimes a lot. It was my style, it was what I was known for, it is what got me clients.

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and I was scared to change.

Could women REALLY embrace themselves, “flaws” and all?

Lets get something straight. I was providing the best experience and photos that I could at the time, and they were still gorgeous photos, they just weren’t what I really wanted to do anymore. My clients were already beautiful. I didn’t need to change them!

It was around this time that I finally started conquering a lot of my own body issues and coming to terms with how I looked and accepting my body for what it was. I was finally feeling beautiful. A huge reason that happened is because of all the amazing women I had photographed. Seeing so many shapes, sizes, stretchmarks, scars, folds, wrinkles and yet they all were so stunningly beautiful.

Hundreds of clients and I never once met a women that looked like a cartoon pinup.

They were all beautiful in their own way, the way they were, which allowed for me to finally see that I was too and I wanted to show them just that…

Flaws and all. 

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To say it was an eye opening experience would be an understatement. That was the shift that I needed to fuel my business to the place that I wanted it to be. A place were ALL bodies were photographed and retouched as little as possible. A place were I could show my clients that they are beautiful without all that jazz, just as they were.

I almost shut my studio doors in 2012. I felt so far removed from what I WANTED to provide to clients and what I was providing that it felt dirty. If I could see how beautiful they were WHY did I need to change anything about them?!

I ended up taking a much needed break and took time to think about what I wanted to do moving forward. I ended up finding the perfect house to move my studio into (which is what I ended up doing) and I only took a handful of clients a month, working on improving my skills and living up to the potential that I knew I had.

I finally felt ALIVE. I was doing what I wanted and I didn’t lose any clients as I had feared. Instead, just the opposite happen. Why? Because I was living my TRUTH. I wasn’t promoting something I didn’t believe in.

I was practicing what I preached and it felt amazing!

Fast forward to 2018. The year I FINALLY got to really showcase unretouched, REAL bodies. Clients actually gave me permission. Not only that, they were excited to show their raw images to other women. They embraced their stretchmarks, scars, folds, wrinkles…all the things we are told should be covered up.

Guess what? Normalizing airbrushed and overly photoshop images in magazines and online is NOT ok. As women, we look at these fake images and judge our own bodies against them, even though most of us know that not even the models or celebrities look like that in real life.

Our own visions of ourselves can become so skewed. Read here on why you don’t look how you think you do.

So I’m here to start the revolution I wanted to so many years ago. To showcase real, raw, beautiful female bodies of all shapes and sizes. There is no wrong way to have a body!

Here is an example of the same client. Photoshoot from around 2011 vs this year. The first retouched and the two from 2018 unretouched (minus color/exposure adjustments but no retouching to the clients body or skin).

All beautiful images in their own way with different vibes but you can FEEL the raw, realness of the images from this year…

The images that embrace my message.

You are enough, You are worthy, You are beautiful.

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Here is a special gallery of clients that have given me permission to share their unretouched images. The only adjustments that are made are color correction to the entire image and small exposure adjustments.

Enjoy all the beautiful bodies you see.

All bodies are good bodies. All of these women are beautiful in their own, real way.

Part 2 coming soon. Continue down the rabbit hole with me when i’ll share unretouched images of myself showcasing all of my beautiful, imperfect flaws ❤

Ready to book your own session and see yourself in a whole new way? Visit us at Glammarr.com

Also see more unretouched images weekly on our instagram

Fearlessly Fem Fridays-St Louis boudoir-GlamMarr-Embrace your “you-niqueness”

Lets face it. I hear it all.  Women are nervous, afraid and down right scared of having photos taken of themselves.

But actually its not the photos that they are scared of. Its that peeling back of the layers of insecurities and the act of being vulnerable that terrifies them.

When I assure my clients that they are going to look amazing…no one ever believes me… At first that is. We have our phone consult and this is usually the time when women choose to tell me what “wrong” with them. Their bodies have changed after having children. Their bodies have changed by the passing years. Their bodies have changed from crash diets, bad relationships, illness or they’ve “let themselves go”.

I truly believe there is an epidemic within the women’s community. With the growth of social media outlets like facebook and Instagram, women are feeling worse and worse about themselves. Comparison is truly the killer of confidence.

This is NOT a new problem. We, as women, have been fed perfectly photoshopped images in magazines for ages and feel that we need to become these perfectly idealized images of what women “should” look like. This is not a new problem but its becoming more and more apparent as things like “facetune” and filters become more readily available.

So when I speak to potential clients who are comparing themselves to these highly stylized versions of women, I know what they’re going to say already. That they are not GOOD enough or PRETTY enough to do photos of this nature.

We’re so programmed to think that the filtered women on Instagram or the photoshopped models in magazines are the standard in which we should gauge ourselves that we CANNOT see the beauty that exudes from our own being.

The way we move. The way we laugh. The way we ARE. Our kindness, our hearts. That special things that makes us… US. We are so focused on being some basterdized form of beautiful that we MISS our own beauty.

So yes, Ive heard it all and I’m here to tell you that its all BULLSHIT.  YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! You are beautiful and worthy of self acceptance and love. What makes you YOU is so much more than your own reflection in the mirror.

What makes you beautiful is so specifically you that no magazine, no social media outlet can portray that through other women.

But I can show you.

At GlamMarr, we give you that moment to pause, that moment to reflect. That moment to SEE yourself. REALLY see yourself. Your individual movement, the special way you laugh that perspective that EVERYONE else sees but you are unable to appreciate because we become so clouded by self doubt or expectations of what we should be.

But don’t take my word for it! Read on to hear a GlamMarr clients thoughts on the experience in her own words!

Ps. Ms. B finally took the plunge last year during our specially priced “Pink Saturday” Special. We will be running another black Friday special this year so if you’ve been on the fence its your time to take a chance. Have a leap of faith! Do it for YOU. You wont regret it!

 

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On a side note. MS B was an absolute joy to work with. She has a laugh that is contagious and a smile that is sweet as pie. I was so happy to meet her and I really appreciate her giving us an insiders perspective on her experience.

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In Ms B’s Own words:

I  joined Alaynna’s Facebook group a few years back after seeing photos she had taken of a friend of mine.  Those pictures were beautiful, as were the rest shared on the FB page and the Glammarr website.  I so wanted to have a shoot; I wanted the pretty pictures, too.

There were a few reasons why I wasn’t ready to make the jump and do it, so it stayed on my list of things to do “someday.”   I continued to follow the FB page for over a year, which also helped me to realize working with Alaynna was not just about getting pretty pictures, it would be so much more!

She helps women truly see THEMSELVES.  When the Pink Saturday Sale was offered last year after Thanksgiving, I felt like if I didn’t do it now, I might never do it.  So, I decided to make the jump and book a session as a 45th birthday present to myself. The months that passed from the moment booked until the day of my shoot were filled with a roller coaster of emotions that would play out over and over again – excitement, hopefulness, doubt, fear.  Before I knew it, nearly six months had passed, and it was shoot day.

 


The day of the shoot, I had not lost all of the weight I had intended to lose (which was one of the apprehensions I had about doing a shoot).  That morning, I stood in front of the mirror naked, took a deep breath and said out loud, “Well, this is NOT the body you wanted to have today.  But this is the body you’ve got.  So go in there and rock it.”  And I headed over to the studio.

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I was excited, but I was also still a ball of nerves when I arrived.  Alaynna and Mariah set those nerves at ease pretty quickly.  They were filled with an incredible energy of positivity, encouragement, acceptance and FUN from beginning to end.  As the shoot moved along, Alaynna showed some of the pics as she took them.  I was blown away.  That was ME.  No retouching, no filters.  JUST ME.  As it turned out, that’s what I was doubtful and afraid of — JUST ME, as I would be in that moment.  And in that moment, I saw me, not just my body, but my entire being.   It can be scary sometimes to let others see us.  It can be even scarier to really see ourselves.  But Alaynna and her team show us that it’s actually the most beautiful thing there is.
From this experience, you’ll get gorgeous pictures.  But Alaynna really captures and celebrates the essence of all of you in those photos, so much so that in turn, something that happens to YOU which is awesomely and overwhelmingly amazing.   We all deserve to see, feel and acknowledge how wonderful we are.  Your body IS good enough to have a shoot.  You are never too old to have a shoot.  You deserve this experience, and I hope those of you that are on the fence about it will make the jump and do it.  You will have no regrets.  I didn’t, and I will DEFINITELY be a repeat offender at Glammarr.
PS – I also want to give a shout out to Monika, of the Glammarr Squad.  Your encouragement and joyfulness also was a huge help to me 

 

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Top 5 plus size fashion and lingerie bloggers to follow

As a boudoir and glamour photographer, I’m often asked by plus size women where they should shop for their photoshoot. It surprises the hell out of me that most women don’t know that there are other women out there, just like them, that are trying on and reviewing lingerie, bras and clothing.

Yes! There is gorgeous bras and lingerie for you to buy at ANY size!

My first introduction to this was as a plus size woman with a bra size of 42L. At the time I was squeezing into a 44DDD (Yikes). I stumbled across Georgina of FFFB (#1 on my list) around 2010 and she forever changed my life and perception on bra sizing, feeling good in your current body and she really made me feel like, I too, could be sexy. I mean look at her!

So without further ado, here is my top 5 plus size fashion and lingerie bloggers to follow. Even if you are not on the plus size spectrum there are still amazing things to learn from each of them.

  1. Fuller figure fuller bust. Georgina is hands down my favorite blogger. She rocks the hell out of her curves and showcases a ton of lingerie, clothing and fashion for women with a more ample figure. She has a very active facebook page where she interacts with her followers, links really cool articles and just basically has a great time. She’s super down to earth and not afraid to speak about really important topics such as body image struggles. So, if you’re someone who says “Why don’t they make pretty bras in my size!?” you really need to check her out!

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  2. The curvy fashionista is an amazing blog that highlights various bloggers, articles and information from across the internet. You can literally spend an eternity looking through this site and I recommend that you do as its content is awesome!

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  3. Saucye West  is a size 28 model that started the movement #fatandfree. I love her because she showcases sizes not seen as often. Her Facebook page is my personal favorite as she shares relevant content as well as videos of herself in fabulous outfits! check out her FB here 
  4. Charli Russen of Curvy girl thin does extensive reviews of a wide range of lingerie and clothing. Def one to watch!

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  5. Queen Charisma of The regal Fatty showcases amazing outfits and lingerie (usually at a great price!) She’s always looking for the best bang for your buck!

So who’s your favorite plus size fashion blogger? Who would you add to the list!?

Now that you know where to get all of the sexy lingerie and clothing you desire its time to book a boudoir shoot. Yes, plus size boudoir is no different than any other photoshoot. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL regardless of your size as these ladies above prove! GlamMarr Studios is located in Collinsville, IL (15 miles from downtown st louis MO) and is body positive and a plus size friendly boudoir studio. Learn more here.

Top 5 body positive Netflix movies & Series-April 2018

If you’re like I am you love to Netflix and chill. Why not watch something that will not only be entertaining but will also help you reconnect to your body. Here I have a list of the top 5 streaming movies and series on Netflix to binge on while finding new ways to embrace who you are!

So grab some wine and popcorn and lets get started!

    1. Ru Paul’s “Drag Race”  As Mama Ru would say, “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” There is something for everyone in this show which is undoubtedly body positive and empowering. Keep an eye out for  Latrice Royale who embraces her plus size instead of using her size as an excuse for why she can not measure up to the other smaller contestants. Not to mention you’ll learn some amazing styling tips as well as how to really embrace who you are inside!       
    2. “Best of TedX” Ted talks are renowned for changing perspectives and pushing their viewers boundaries. TedX may not be specifically about bodies or body positivity, but their series are worth a watch. You are guaranteed to find something that will resonate with you personally and often leave you in tears (in a good way).  My personal favorites are Stripping Away Negative Body Image — Lillian Bustle,  Plus Size? More Like My Size! — Ashley Graham and An Epidemic Of Beauty Sickness — Renee Engeln. There are many, many more that are also empowering and eye opening though!
    3. “Drop Dead Diva” I personally love this show. Its a fun premise but it really focuses on the reality of being a plus size woman in America. They tackle things such as sizeism, the fucked up vanity/clothing sizing that women have to deal with and the pitfalls and dangers that dieting can create. A highly recommended watch!
    4. “Miss Representation” This documentary isn’t necessarily about body positivity BUT rather how the media is selling the idea that womens value lie in their beauty, youth and sexuality rather than their capacity to be leaders. This documentary shows us that we need to value women on their individual traits and not just gender stereotypes.  Another film that will make you go “HUH?!” once you see how manipulating media really is.
    5. “Orange is the new black”. While I haven’t had the time to finish this amazing series I can tell you that there is a hugely diverse cast of characters that will appeal to a broad range of audience. There is body positivity in literally every episode. If you haven’t binged on this, do so now!
    Well, there they were! Have you seen any of these? Which is your favorite? Let me know if I missed any as well and we can add to the list.
    I am also planning on a vlog going over other body positive streaming shows out there, including what bloggers, Youtubers and influencers to follow.