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Lets face it. I hear it all.  Women are nervous, afraid and down right scared of having photos taken of themselves.

But actually its not the photos that they are scared of. Its that peeling back of the layers of insecurities and the act of being vulnerable that terrifies them.

When I assure my clients that they are going to look amazing…no one ever believes me… At first that is. We have our phone consult and this is usually the time when women choose to tell me what “wrong” with them. Their bodies have changed after having children. Their bodies have changed by the passing years. Their bodies have changed from crash diets, bad relationships, illness or they’ve “let themselves go”.

I truly believe there is an epidemic within the women’s community. With the growth of social media outlets like facebook and Instagram, women are feeling worse and worse about themselves. Comparison is truly the killer of confidence.

This is NOT a new problem. We, as women, have been fed perfectly photoshopped images in magazines for ages and feel that we need to become these perfectly idealized images of what women “should” look like. This is not a new problem but its becoming more and more apparent as things like “facetune” and filters become more readily available.

So when I speak to potential clients who are comparing themselves to these highly stylized versions of women, I know what they’re going to say already. That they are not GOOD enough or PRETTY enough to do photos of this nature.

We’re so programmed to think that the filtered women on Instagram or the photoshopped models in magazines are the standard in which we should gauge ourselves that we CANNOT see the beauty that exudes from our own being.

The way we move. The way we laugh. The way we ARE. Our kindness, our hearts. That special things that makes us… US. We are so focused on being some basterdized form of beautiful that we MISS our own beauty.

So yes, Ive heard it all and I’m here to tell you that its all BULLSHIT.  YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! You are beautiful and worthy of self acceptance and love. What makes you YOU is so much more than your own reflection in the mirror.

What makes you beautiful is so specifically you that no magazine, no social media outlet can portray that through other women.

But I can show you.

At GlamMarr, we give you that moment to pause, that moment to reflect. That moment to SEE yourself. REALLY see yourself. Your individual movement, the special way you laugh that perspective that EVERYONE else sees but you are unable to appreciate because we become so clouded by self doubt or expectations of what we should be.

But don’t take my word for it! Read on to hear a GlamMarr clients thoughts on the experience in her own words!

Ps. Ms. B finally took the plunge last year during our specially priced “Pink Saturday” Special. We will be running another black Friday special this year so if you’ve been on the fence its your time to take a chance. Have a leap of faith! Do it for YOU. You wont regret it!

 

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On a side note. MS B was an absolute joy to work with. She has a laugh that is contagious and a smile that is sweet as pie. I was so happy to meet her and I really appreciate her giving us an insiders perspective on her experience.

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In Ms B’s Own words:

I  joined Alaynna’s Facebook group a few years back after seeing photos she had taken of a friend of mine.  Those pictures were beautiful, as were the rest shared on the FB page and the Glammarr website.  I so wanted to have a shoot; I wanted the pretty pictures, too.

There were a few reasons why I wasn’t ready to make the jump and do it, so it stayed on my list of things to do “someday.”   I continued to follow the FB page for over a year, which also helped me to realize working with Alaynna was not just about getting pretty pictures, it would be so much more!

She helps women truly see THEMSELVES.  When the Pink Saturday Sale was offered last year after Thanksgiving, I felt like if I didn’t do it now, I might never do it.  So, I decided to make the jump and book a session as a 45th birthday present to myself. The months that passed from the moment booked until the day of my shoot were filled with a roller coaster of emotions that would play out over and over again – excitement, hopefulness, doubt, fear.  Before I knew it, nearly six months had passed, and it was shoot day.

 


The day of the shoot, I had not lost all of the weight I had intended to lose (which was one of the apprehensions I had about doing a shoot).  That morning, I stood in front of the mirror naked, took a deep breath and said out loud, “Well, this is NOT the body you wanted to have today.  But this is the body you’ve got.  So go in there and rock it.”  And I headed over to the studio.

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I was excited, but I was also still a ball of nerves when I arrived.  Alaynna and Mariah set those nerves at ease pretty quickly.  They were filled with an incredible energy of positivity, encouragement, acceptance and FUN from beginning to end.  As the shoot moved along, Alaynna showed some of the pics as she took them.  I was blown away.  That was ME.  No retouching, no filters.  JUST ME.  As it turned out, that’s what I was doubtful and afraid of — JUST ME, as I would be in that moment.  And in that moment, I saw me, not just my body, but my entire being.   It can be scary sometimes to let others see us.  It can be even scarier to really see ourselves.  But Alaynna and her team show us that it’s actually the most beautiful thing there is.
From this experience, you’ll get gorgeous pictures.  But Alaynna really captures and celebrates the essence of all of you in those photos, so much so that in turn, something that happens to YOU which is awesomely and overwhelmingly amazing.   We all deserve to see, feel and acknowledge how wonderful we are.  Your body IS good enough to have a shoot.  You are never too old to have a shoot.  You deserve this experience, and I hope those of you that are on the fence about it will make the jump and do it.  You will have no regrets.  I didn’t, and I will DEFINITELY be a repeat offender at Glammarr.
PS – I also want to give a shout out to Monika, of the Glammarr Squad.  Your encouragement and joyfulness also was a huge help to me 

 

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#FearlesslyFemFridays

We’ve decided to post a weekly blog showcasing our clients boudoir shoots! This is our first #FearlesslyFemFriday and we’re excited to showcase our shoot with Ms. J. Ms J is a repeat client at GlamMarr Studios, located in Collinsville, IL.

For this shoot, anything went! She brought in several sexy outfits, including some Christmas related items. She also borrowed a few pieces from our client wardrobe closet (which offers sizes xs-6xl).

I was so excited to elevate her second shoot to a whole new level. We worked on posing her to create sensual looks and she nailed it on the expressions. We also shot her in front of our fireplace which added a whole new dimension to her photos!

The fireplace is used during January, February and march shoots.

If you are interested in booking a boudoir shoot of your own just head on over to our website at Glammarr.com

GlamMarr studio specializes in sensual photography for EVERY body! With over 13 years of experience working with women of all sizes, shapes, colors and ages. St Louis boudoir never looked better. Our mission is for you to fall in love with yourself all over again…or maybe for the first time ever! Our boudoir sessions are specifically for those struggling with their body image and confidence. We show you a different perspective of yourself, one you are sure to love!

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Top 5 plus size fashion and lingerie bloggers to follow

As a boudoir and glamour photographer, I’m often asked by plus size women where they should shop for their photoshoot. It surprises the hell out of me that most women don’t know that there are other women out there, just like them, that are trying on and reviewing lingerie, bras and clothing.

Yes! There is gorgeous bras and lingerie for you to buy at ANY size!

My first introduction to this was as a plus size woman with a bra size of 42L. At the time I was squeezing into a 44DDD (Yikes). I stumbled across Georgina of FFFB (#1 on my list) around 2010 and she forever changed my life and perception on bra sizing, feeling good in your current body and she really made me feel like, I too, could be sexy. I mean look at her!

So without further ado, here is my top 5 plus size fashion and lingerie bloggers to follow. Even if you are not on the plus size spectrum there are still amazing things to learn from each of them.

  1. Fuller figure fuller bust. Georgina is hands down my favorite blogger. She rocks the hell out of her curves and showcases a ton of lingerie, clothing and fashion for women with a more ample figure. She has a very active facebook page where she interacts with her followers, links really cool articles and just basically has a great time. She’s super down to earth and not afraid to speak about really important topics such as body image struggles. So, if you’re someone who says “Why don’t they make pretty bras in my size!?” you really need to check her out!

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  2. The curvy fashionista is an amazing blog that highlights various bloggers, articles and information from across the internet. You can literally spend an eternity looking through this site and I recommend that you do as its content is awesome!

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  3. Saucye West  is a size 28 model that started the movement #fatandfree. I love her because she showcases sizes not seen as often. Her Facebook page is my personal favorite as she shares relevant content as well as videos of herself in fabulous outfits! check out her FB here 
  4. Charli Russen of Curvy girl thin does extensive reviews of a wide range of lingerie and clothing. Def one to watch!
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  5. Queen Charisma of The regal Fatty showcases amazing outfits and lingerie (usually at a great price!) She’s always looking for the best bang for your buck!

So who’s your favorite plus size fashion blogger? Who would you add to the list!?

Now that you know where to get all of the sexy lingerie and clothing you desire its time to book a boudoir shoot. Yes, plus size boudoir is no different than any other photoshoot. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL regardless of your size as these ladies above prove! GlamMarr Studios is located in Collinsville, IL (15 miles from downtown st louis MO) and is body positive and a plus size friendly boudoir studio. Learn more here.

Top 5 body positive Netflix movies & Series-April 2018

If you’re like I am you love to Netflix and chill. Why not watch something that will not only be entertaining but will also help you reconnect to your body. Here I have a list of the top 5 streaming movies and series on Netflix to binge on while finding new ways to embrace who you are!

So grab some wine and popcorn and lets get started!

    1. Ru Paul’s “Drag Race”  As Mama Ru would say, “If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?” There is something for everyone in this show which is undoubtedly body positive and empowering. Keep an eye out for  Latrice Royale who embraces her plus size instead of using her size as an excuse for why she can not measure up to the other smaller contestants. Not to mention you’ll learn some amazing styling tips as well as how to really embrace who you are inside!       
    2. “Best of TedX” Ted talks are renowned for changing perspectives and pushing their viewers boundaries. TedX may not be specifically about bodies or body positivity, but their series are worth a watch. You are guaranteed to find something that will resonate with you personally and often leave you in tears (in a good way).  My personal favorites are Stripping Away Negative Body Image — Lillian Bustle,  Plus Size? More Like My Size! — Ashley Graham and An Epidemic Of Beauty Sickness — Renee Engeln. There are many, many more that are also empowering and eye opening though!
    3. “Drop Dead Diva” I personally love this show. Its a fun premise but it really focuses on the reality of being a plus size woman in America. They tackle things such as sizeism, the fucked up vanity/clothing sizing that women have to deal with and the pitfalls and dangers that dieting can create. A highly recommended watch!
    4. “Miss Representation” This documentary isn’t necessarily about body positivity BUT rather how the media is selling the idea that womens value lie in their beauty, youth and sexuality rather than their capacity to be leaders. This documentary shows us that we need to value women on their individual traits and not just gender stereotypes.  Another film that will make you go “HUH?!” once you see how manipulating media really is.
    5. “Orange is the new black”. While I haven’t had the time to finish this amazing series I can tell you that there is a hugely diverse cast of characters that will appeal to a broad range of audience. There is body positivity in literally every episode. If you haven’t binged on this, do so now!
    Well, there they were! Have you seen any of these? Which is your favorite? Let me know if I missed any as well and we can add to the list.
    I am also planning on a vlog going over other body positive streaming shows out there, including what bloggers, Youtubers and influencers to follow.