Lets face it. I hear it all. Women are nervous, afraid and down right scared of having photos taken of themselves.
But actually its not the photos that they are scared of. Its that peeling back of the layers of insecurities and the act of being vulnerable that terrifies them.
When I assure my clients that they are going to look amazing…no one ever believes me… At first that is. We have our phone consult and this is usually the time when women choose to tell me what “wrong” with them. Their bodies have changed after having children. Their bodies have changed by the passing years. Their bodies have changed from crash diets, bad relationships, illness or they’ve “let themselves go”.
I truly believe there is an epidemic within the women’s community. With the growth of social media outlets like facebook and Instagram, women are feeling worse and worse about themselves. Comparison is truly the killer of confidence.
This is NOT a new problem. We, as women, have been fed perfectly photoshopped images in magazines for ages and feel that we need to become these perfectly idealized images of what women “should” look like. This is not a new problem but its becoming more and more apparent as things like “facetune” and filters become more readily available.
So when I speak to potential clients who are comparing themselves to these highly stylized versions of women, I know what they’re going to say already. That they are not GOOD enough or PRETTY enough to do photos of this nature.
We’re so programmed to think that the filtered women on Instagram or the photoshopped models in magazines are the standard in which we should gauge ourselves that we CANNOT see the beauty that exudes from our own being.
The way we move. The way we laugh. The way we ARE. Our kindness, our hearts. That special things that makes us… US. We are so focused on being some basterdized form of beautiful that we MISS our own beauty.
So yes, Ive heard it all and I’m here to tell you that its all BULLSHIT. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL! You are beautiful and worthy of self acceptance and love. What makes you YOU is so much more than your own reflection in the mirror.
What makes you beautiful is so specifically you that no magazine, no social media outlet can portray that through other women.
But I can show you.
At GlamMarr, we give you that moment to pause, that moment to reflect. That moment to SEE yourself. REALLY see yourself. Your individual movement, the special way you laugh that perspective that EVERYONE else sees but you are unable to appreciate because we become so clouded by self doubt or expectations of what we should be.
But don’t take my word for it! Read on to hear a GlamMarr clients thoughts on the experience in her own words!
Ps. Ms. B finally took the plunge last year during our specially priced “Pink Saturday” Special. We will be running another black Friday special this year so if you’ve been on the fence its your time to take a chance. Have a leap of faith! Do it for YOU. You wont regret it!
On a side note. MS B was an absolute joy to work with. She has a laugh that is contagious and a smile that is sweet as pie. I was so happy to meet her and I really appreciate her giving us an insiders perspective on her experience.
In Ms B’s Own words:
I joined Alaynna’s Facebook group a few years back after seeing photos she had taken of a friend of mine. Those pictures were beautiful, as were the rest shared on the FB page and the Glammarr website. I so wanted to have a shoot; I wanted the pretty pictures, too.
There were a few reasons why I wasn’t ready to make the jump and do it, so it stayed on my list of things to do “someday.” I continued to follow the FB page for over a year, which also helped me to realize working with Alaynna was not just about getting pretty pictures, it would be so much more!
She helps women truly see THEMSELVES. When the Pink Saturday Sale was offered last year after Thanksgiving, I felt like if I didn’t do it now, I might never do it. So, I decided to make the jump and book a session as a 45th birthday present to myself. The months that passed from the moment booked until the day of my shoot were filled with a roller coaster of emotions that would play out over and over again – excitement, hopefulness, doubt, fear. Before I knew it, nearly six months had passed, and it was shoot day.
The day of the shoot, I had not lost all of the weight I had intended to lose (which was one of the apprehensions I had about doing a shoot). That morning, I stood in front of the mirror naked, took a deep breath and said out loud, “Well, this is NOT the body you wanted to have today. But this is the body you’ve got. So go in there and rock it.” And I headed over to the studio.
I was excited, but I was also still a ball of nerves when I arrived. Alaynna and Mariah set those nerves at ease pretty quickly. They were filled with an incredible energy of positivity, encouragement, acceptance and FUN from beginning to end. As the shoot moved along, Alaynna showed some of the pics as she took them. I was blown away. That was ME. No retouching, no filters. JUST ME. As it turned out, that’s what I was doubtful and afraid of — JUST ME, as I would be in that moment. And in that moment, I saw me, not just my body, but my entire being. It can be scary sometimes to let others see us. It can be even scarier to really see ourselves. But Alaynna and her team show us that it’s actually the most beautiful thing there is.
From this experience, you’ll get gorgeous pictures. But Alaynna really captures and celebrates the essence of all of you in those photos, so much so that in turn, something that happens to YOU which is awesomely and overwhelmingly amazing. We all deserve to see, feel and acknowledge how wonderful we are. Your body IS good enough to have a shoot. You are never too old to have a shoot. You deserve this experience, and I hope those of you that are on the fence about it will make the jump and do it. You will have no regrets. I didn’t, and I will DEFINITELY be a repeat offender at Glammarr.
PS – I also want to give a shout out to Monika, of the Glammarr Squad. Your encouragement and joyfulness also was a huge help to me